Showing posts with label Mother. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Mother. Show all posts

Thursday, April 3, 2008

Dear Baby Maker

By Cary Tennis, Salon

You want a child so very very much --

Because you are a woman.
Because you long for immortality.
Because you desire power over little powerless beings.
Because it is your duty.
Because you feel wonderful when you are around children.
Because your own mom was a great mom and you want to be like her.
Because you fear death.
Because you need help with housework.
Because you want to fit in with other women your age.
Because of cultural conditioning and advertising.
Because you want to pass on your great genes.
Because you'd like to say, "My son the doctor."
Because it is your destiny.
Because you need a husband and family for protection.
Because of your hormones.
Because making popcorn with kids is fun.
Because of your recent breakup.
Because of envy.
Because you are just like the other women.
Because you want what your friends have.
Because you want to relive your childhood.
Because women with children enjoy high status.
Because you love children.
Because you could get off work.
Because you want to please your parents.
Because having children is just what women do.
Because like OMG, Duh!
Because it's God's will.
Because your husband will want them.
Because you have nothing better to do.
Because your sister doesn't have any.
Because your dad wants grandkids.
Because you can.
Because you're curious.

Friday, March 28, 2008

Web Tip Led Mother to Get Kidnapped Son in Korea

By CLARE TRAPASSO, Associated Press Writer Fri Mar 28, 3:44 AM ET

NEW YORK - Tiffany Rubin had all but given up hope of ever seeing her abducted child again when she received an anonymous tip through her MySpace page. Someone had spotted her 7-year-old son and her ex-boyfriend in South Korea.

The Queens special education teacher caught a 15-hour flight to South Korea on Sunday. She sneaked into her son's school, found Kobe Lee in a classroom, disguised him with a wig and sought refuge in the U.S. Embassy before bringing him home Wednesday.

"It's great," Rubin said. "I never thought this day would come."

Her ordeal began on Aug. 21, after her ex-boyfriend Jeffrey Salko disappeared with their child after a visit.

At the time, he had joint custody of their son but was facing up to six months in jail for not paying child support. The boy lived with his mother and saw his father on alternate weekends.

Kobe's court-appointed law guardian, Joseph Fredericks, had recommended Rubin receive sole custody.

"They were constantly at war over this child," Fredericks said of the parents, who separated when Kobe was 4 months old.

After Salko disappeared with her child, Rubin was afraid her ex, born in South Korea, had taken the boy abroad.

"I was just basically panicking," said Rubin, 30. "I was hoping they were still in the United States."

Her fears were realized when she hacked into Salko's e-mail account, she said. She discovered an e-mail he had sent to a friend saying he was flying to South Korea — and wasn't coming back.

Mark Miller, founder of the American Association for Lost Children Inc., a Christian charity that recovers missing children, persuaded her to put him on the case.

"She was so distraught," Miller said. "Her whole world was taken from her."

The FBI issued a warrant for Salko's arrest, but Rubin didn't get her big break until January.

She received a message on her MySpace page from someone who had seen her son and knew where he went to school. Shortly after, she received a phone call from Kobe telling her he missed her — and Salko was listening in. Rubin said her son wasn't aware he had been kidnapped.

Shortly after, she flew to South Korea with Miller and Bazzel Baz, chief executive officer of the nonprofit Association for the Recovery of Children, to recover Kobe.

The men surveyed the school while Rubin waited in a hotel. Security appeared to be lax, Rubin said, and the next day she went to her son's classroom and called his name.

"I was like, oh my God," Kobe said. "I can't believe she's here."

Rubin explained who she was to her son's teacher and said she needed a minute to speak with him. Then mother and son walked out of the building and hailed a cab to the American embassy.

As a precaution, she made Kobe wear a wig, so anyone looking for them would think he was a girl.

The following day, mother and son returned home.

"He's doing good, watching cartoons and wanting to play video games," Rubin said. But "he's a little worried that his dad's going to take him again."

FBI spokesman Matthew Bertron said the bureau was trying to work with South Korea to secure Salko's arrest and extradition. Calls to his family Thursday went unanswered.

Almost 800,000 children are reported missing each year, according to the U.S. Department of Justice. About one-quarter of them are abducted by family members.